【聽美文故事記六級單詞】建議新婚夫婦降低婚姻期望值(2/2)歌詞

In contrast, the researchers say holding a more prosaic view of your loved ones means you are less likely to be disappointed, and therefore more satisfied with your marriage. Writing in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, researchers led by James McNulty, professor of psychology at Ohio University, said, "In contrast to the idea that expectations in the early years of marriage exert main effects on satisfaction, the current findings suggest that the effects of expectations interact with the skills partners bring to their relationships." Previous research found that people tend to select like-minded partners who they believe will be able to maintain a stable relationship. The finding contradicts the old adage that opposites attract. Instead, the US researchers said people looking for long-term relationships should select partners who were similar to themselves, rather than seeking out the highest quality partner available.
相反，研究人員說，用平常心來看待自己的愛人就意味著你不太會失望，所以也就會對婚姻更加滿意。 由俄亥俄州立大學(xué)心理學(xué)教授詹姆斯·邁克納蒂領(lǐng)導(dǎo)的研究者們在《人格和社會心理學(xué)》雜志上發(fā)表文章說：“以往的研究表明，結(jié)婚最初幾年對于婚姻的期望值會對婚姻的滿意程度產(chǎn)生重要影響，與此形成鮮明對照的是，目前的研究表明期望值的影響力與伴侶對其婚姻關(guān)系所采用的技巧是相互作用的?！?上述研究還發(fā)現(xiàn)，人們傾向于選擇志趣相投的伴侶，他們相信這樣能夠維持一份穩(wěn)定的婚姻。 這一發(fā)現(xiàn)與過去所認(rèn)為的“不同性格相互吸引”的說法截然不同。 取而代之的是，美國的研究人員說，尋找長期婚姻關(guān)系的人們應(yīng)該選擇與自己性格相近的伴侶而不是尋求最優(yōu)秀的伴侶。